I once worked with a young professional who knew everything. No matter what anyone thought, suggested, or knew, he had thought of it first, was going to suggest it, or knew better. While there’s no denying that he had some good ideas and a lot of potential, his lack of coachability was exhausting for everyone involved. The constant pushback wasted time, caused avoidable delays and stirred up immense frustration across the team. Ultimately, his approach left him alienated from his colleagues — and several opportunities that could have quickly taken his career to a new level.
In my career, I have had the opportunity to work with entrepreneurs, authors, celebrities, investment tycoons, and even a president, and all see, to know two things:
1. There is always more to learn.
The fastest way to stunt your growth? Thinking you’ve arrived. The real ones know that mastery isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about staying curious, asking better questions, and leveling up every chance you get. Keep learning, keep evolving, and watch what happens.
2. The willingness to adapt, listen, and act on feedback without getting defensive is critical.
Want to evolve, refine your skills, and stay ahead? Be open to feedback without getting prickly. Not only does it show confidence, humility, and respect for the people (and industry) who know their stuff, but it shows you care about doing the best work possible.
Why Being Coachable Matters
Coachability is Your Power Move
It’s an Investment in Yourself
Every time you take feedback and learn from others, you’re leveling up. The fastest way to future-proof yourself? Stay open, stay learning, and stack new skills like your next big asset.
It Can Reveal Your Blind Spots
No one has it all figured out, but those who get it know that catching those weak spots early is the key to long-term success. The more willing you are to take a step back and reassess, the faster you can course-correct and keep moving forward.
You’ll Build Better Relationships
We all love a winning idea, but people notice when you listen, acknowledge expertise, and respect different perspectives. Whether it’s a mentor, a colleague, or your audience, being open builds trust—and trust is the currency of real influence.
You’re Less Likely to Fall Behind
The world moves fast—markets shift, industries evolve, and opportunities don’t wait. The most successful people (and businesses) aren’t the ones who know it all—they’re the ones who stay flexible. Coachability is your safety net—it keeps you agile, adaptable, and ready for whatever comes next.
You’ll Have More Opportunity
Successful leaders look for people who are willing to learn. Why? Because those are the ones who take feedback, improve, and turn it into something better. This creates more value for the team and the organization. These are the people who grow. They’re the ones with the ideas that take something from good to great. They don’t get stunted by inflexibility or fear of getting it wrong.
Why Coachability Matters—In Numbers
According to a survey by Leadership IQ, 46% of new hires fail within 18 months, and the top reason isn’t lack of skill—it’s the inability to accept feedback. This research underscores the idea that being coachable not only boosts your chances of career success but a lack of coachibility can close and lock doors of opportunity.
Traits of The Coachable
They Listen Without Defensiveness
- Coachable people know how to listen—not just hear
- They know the difference between confidence and arrogance
- They aren’t afraid to be wrong
- They follow through on feedback
- They pause to reflect on setbacks and learn from them
- They lean into accountability
How to Develop Coachability
Adopt a “Student” Mindset
The best leaders are perpetual students. Approach every situation with curiosity and ask, “What can I learn here?” Read books and articles. Attend workshops and masterclasses. Ask questions.
Ask for Feedback—and Mean It
If you’re waiting for feedback to come to you, you’re doing it wrong. Proactively seek input from people you respect, and when they offer it, take it seriously and incorporate it.
Know the Difference Between Guidance and Criticism
Considering context and intention can go a long way. There’s a big difference between a mentor sharing their expertise to help make you (or a project) better and someone just tearing you down.
Reflect Regularly
Take the time to sit down and think about what’s working, what isn’t, and where you can improve. Self-reflection is one of the most powerful tools in personal development.
Get Comfortable With Discomfort
Growth often feels awkward. Whether it’s trying something new or hearing hard truths, embrace the discomfort—it’s a sign you’re growing.
Develop Resilience
Setbacks and missteps are inevitable. For example, think of an athlete recovering from a major injury. Instead of giving up, they use the experience to come back stronger, honing both their mental and physical skills. The more you face challenges head-on, the faster you’ll bounce back and grow.
Take Action: Your Coachability Challenge
Pause and reflect:
- What’s one area where you’ve resisted feedback recently?
- How can you approach it with humility and curiosity instead?
Take one step today to improve your coachability.
Whether it’s asking a trusted colleague for feedback, reflecting on a recent setback, or simply practicing listening without defensiveness, commit to the mindset of growth.
Finally, remember, success isn’t about knowing everything—it’s about being open to learning something new.