When pop star, Dua Lipa stepped out at the recent wedding of Fashion Designer, Simon Porte Jacquemus and Marco Maestri in Charleval, France, she caused a stir that made headlines around the world — and not just because she looked drop-dead gorgeous. The Last Dance singer was dressed in a sheer dress (with a gorgeous matching lingerie set underneath) — and it was head-to-toe white.
“We Can’t Believe Dua Lipa Wore This Sheer White Dress to a Wedding,” blared SheFinds.com while fans on Twitter engaged in a heated debate. “Rare L from my Queen,” wrote a fan who added, “If it’s your wedding, you should put a stop to it now. If it’s not your wedding, why [the f**k] are you wearing white.”
What many of the headlines failed to mention (and fans didn’t know) was that Lipa wasn’t snubbing tradition to get attention, she was simply following the dress code set by the couple and honoring her friends talent to boot — the dress was a Jacquemus design.
While traditionalists might gasp, expert opinions on the subject vary. The Debrett’s wedding handbook says that guests should avoid white, cream and black (or anything else that will steal attention from the bride) whereas the Emily Post Institute says that it’s acceptable to wear white providing that it doesn’t ‘distract from the bride or her attendant’s dresses’ such as when Victoria Beckham wore this patterned dress to the wedding of Sergio Ramos and Pilar Rubio. Another occasion white or cream might be acceptable? When the bride has chosen another color for the big day (see The Queen’s cream coat at the wedding of Prince Charles to The Duchess of Cornwall).
Still, it’s important to note that slipping into something even remotely resembling a bridal look when not specifically asked to is a faux-pas that can not only offend brides but end friendships as in the case with Amanda, 38, New York. After her college roommate arrived in a ‘full length white evening gown’, it was game over. “It was just so disrespectful. This was a woman in her 30’s who had lived enough life and attended enough weddings to know what message she was sending. I heard it loud and clear, and as such, I never spoke to her again,” she says.
In the end, we believe that following the dress code set by the couple and respecting their wishes for their special day is the ultimate sign of good manners.